When the soul asks questions the mind can't answer
Spiritual counselling in Toronto that honors depth, mystery, and the search for meaning without imposing answers
What spiritual and existential struggle feels like
You find yourself asking questions that don't have easy answers: What's the point of all this? Why am I here? What happens when I die? How do I live a meaningful life in a world that seems increasingly fragmented and uncertain?
Maybe you've had experiences that don't fit into conventional frameworks moments of transcendence, spiritual emergence, encounters with something larger than yourself that you can't quite name. And you don't know how to talk about them without sounding strange or being pathologized.
Or perhaps it's the opposite a profound absence. You look around and see people who seem to have faith, purpose, direction, and you feel empty. You wonder if there's something wrong with you for not finding comfort in the structures that work for others.
You might be in a period of spiritual crisis or "dark night of the soul" a time when old beliefs have fallen away but nothing new has emerged to take their place. You're in the void, and it's disorienting, lonely, and sometimes terrifying.
These questions feel too big for normal therapy. You've tried talking to friends or religious communities, but no one quite gets it. You need a space where these questions are welcomed, where they're not dismissed as overthinking or redirected to symptom management.
These questions aren't problems to be solved. They're invitations to depth. And you don't have to navigate them alone.
What spiritual and existential work is
Existential and transpersonal psychology recognize that human beings aren't just solving practical problems we're meaning-making creatures grappling with fundamental questions about existence, purpose, death, freedom, and connection to something larger than ourselves.
These questions often intensify during times of transition, loss, or crisis. They can also arise when conventional life stops working when success doesn't bring fulfillment, when the structures you relied on crumble, when you wake up and realize you've been living someone else's life.
Spiritual emergence (as opposed to emergency) refers to periods of rapid spiritual growth or awakening. These can be beautiful, but they can also be destabilizing. You might experience shifts in perception, changes in values, or a sense of dissolving boundaries that's both liberating and frightening.
This work isn't about converting you to any particular belief system. It's about creating space for you to explore what's true for you to touch the mystery without needing to pin it down, to live the questions rather than rushing to answers.
How we work with these questions together
Holding space for the unsayable
I approach spiritual and existential questions with respect and curiosity, never dismissing them as secondary to "real" psychological work. This is real work. We create space for paradox, mystery, and experiences that don't fit neat categories.
Exploring without imposing
I don't come with a predetermined spiritual framework. Whether you're religious, secular, exploring multiple traditions, or constructing your own understanding, I meet you where you are. The goal is to help you listen to your own inner knowing, not to impose mine.
Integrating body, psyche, and spirit
Spiritual work isn't separate from psychological or somatic work. They inform each other. We pay attention to how these questions live in your body, how they're connected to your relationships and life circumstances, and how they're calling you to grow.
Living the questions
The poet Rilke wrote: "Live the questions now. Perhaps you will then gradually, without noticing it, live along some distant day into the answer." We practice dwelling in uncertainty, tolerating not-knowing, and trusting the unfolding process rather than forcing premature closure.
What might gradually change
You develop more capacity to hold the big questions without needing immediate answers. The anxiety of not-knowing softens. You become more comfortable with mystery.
You start to touch what genuinely matters to you, beneath the layers of conditioning and expectation. Your values clarify. You make choices more aligned with your deeper truth.
If you've had spiritual experiences, you find ways to integrate them into your life rather than keeping them compartmentalized or secret. You develop language for what felt unsayable.
A sense of meaning emerges not handed to you from outside, but arising from within. You connect to purpose that's authentic rather than borrowed. Life feels more coherent even when it remains uncertain.
You become more able to tolerate existential realities death, freedom, isolation, meaninglessness without collapsing under their weight. You find ways to create meaning even in the face of life's inherent groundlessness.
These questions deserve space
If you're grappling with questions of meaning, spirituality, or existence, I'm here to explore them with you. Let's start with a consultation.